Don't get me wrong, I am fully aware of the olive branch you're extending to me by not only allowing me to post in this thread, but actively engaging me, and I appreciate that.
There's a lot of stuff to reply to, but I'll start here.
To be honest, the irony of the fact that this account should've been locked wasn't lost on me when I replied last night.
But it's been good conversation overall, and I'm always in favor of encouraging that.
When you received your warning, you automatically receive it via PM from the system; in addition to the automatic PM, we additionally send it via email - because we recognize the ridiculousness of banning somebody and then telling them why they were banned via PMs, which they can't read while banned. If you did not receive the email, my first question would be to have you confirm the email address registered under your account is accurate; second would be to ensure the email didn't get moved to your spam filter.
Okay, let's start there. Here's every email I've ever received from NGA moderators/staff.
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There's warning #4 which now gets me hit with a one week ban (and effectively excuses me from this community because there's little reason for me to come back and contribute after this). Again, I have no idea about the specifics of the warning........BUT, this time I receive a follow-up email! Yay.
I'll dissect that one in the next post so we can all see examples of what I'm being warned/disciplined for.
So, allow me to extend an apology to you. I dug through the logs attached to your name, and I see I was the one who issued your prior warnings, so it was my failure to not send those to you via email. I've asked our tech support magician if he can hack the site's code so that it automatically sends an email as well as a PM when a warning is issued. That way old fogies like me don't have to remember.
Moving on to the warning itself: since you posted it, I'm happy to discuss the matter publicly now. I generally prefer to avoid "quote wars" (I quote a snippet of what you said, reply, another snippet, reply, etc) because they're often ugly-looking and they often lead to nit picking over little things. But I think multiple quotes here will be best, so please forgive me for covering the post with quoted snippets of your post. Before I do that, though, I want to talk about warnings in general.
For the most part, our goal is to attempt to steer conversation back toward "polite" territory. To do so, we use two types of warnings. The first is a "soft" warning. It's analogous to the cop who lets you off with a warning after he catches you doing 37 in a 25. A soft warning will be delivered via PM by the moderator who is issuing it, and it will clearly state that it's a soft warn with no actions against your account. Like the warning you quoted above, it'll quote the post and tell you why we think your post violated the code of conduct. I know you're enjoying the hammer references, first with Thor and now with Donkey Kong, but we issue significantly more soft warnings that "hard" warnings.
And that's the other type of warning - a "hard" warning. These are tracked (by the software) and are used to determine if a ban is necessary, and of what length. To follow along on the analogy of the cop who caught you speeding, a hard warning is like a ticket for speeding. These are issued through the site software, which generates a PM to send the text of the warning along to the user. Our policy - and clearly, I failed at it - is to also send the text via email, for exactly the reason documented here; because otherwise, the member gets banned and doesn't know why.
Sticking with the already over-used speeding ticket analogy, a moderator can - and often does - opt to cut a member some slack when issuing a warning. For example, rather than infracting for each of those above (or even one warning for each thread that was involved), we often lump things that occurred in close proximity together - much like a cop who is in a good mood will give you a ticket for doing 31 in a 25 even though he clocked you at 37.
(And then a final note here: sometimes, a mod will send a PM to a member that may look like a soft warning, but it's really just a courtesy note to let them know we've edited one of the their posts. For example, if Joe Magic makes a post that flames somebody we're going to edit the flame out of Joe's post; if you quoted it before we could catch it and make the edit, we'll then also edit your post to remove the flame from the quote. In this sort of scenario, you didn't do anything wrong, and you're not at all in any sort of trouble. We're simply sending you the PM as a courtesy "heads up" to inform that your post was edited and why.)
So let's take a quick look at the comments we removed, and why. I'll try to be brief because I know this post is already running long. I've typed and deleted this a few times now trying to think of the best way to reply. Hopefully this works out to be brief but clear.
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1) To say the card actually sucks in 1v1 is pretty par for the course though
(without any real backup other than inaccurate statements like "time
walking yourself" "can't afford to cast it until you have a winning board
postion") from our resident Magic expert.
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2) You can either take my amateur advice or listen to the expert above me.
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3) Helluva fight. -jackeem33
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4) (as evidenced by that poor attack or a theoretical no-attack....though
again maybe he had it and made that attack anyways because you were
playing against an actual reh-tard)
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5) It's not even about raining on your parade specifically jackeem, I would
have ripped that post apart no matter who posted it. I'm fighting the good
fight here, doing my part to encourage quality content. If this were a
Call of Duty forum, your post would be the equivalent of "I 360-no-scoped
this guy who was standing completely still in an open doorway. It took me
about 5 tries."
Again, color me impressed.
So these are the posts from the Guardians of Light thread. We'll start here. There are some patterns, and we can talk about those pretty easily.
For #1 and #2, you were making a slight toward another member. Yep, it's mild. Had this been your first "offense" we'd be looking at a soft warn, really. But that doesn't change the clear intent of your post - to belittle another member of the community by derisively calling them the "resident magic expert."
#3 and #5 are similar - the entire point was to belittle another member by unfavorably comparing Hakeem to that other poster (mjack). Again, by itself with no previous history this likely gets a soft warn and a request for it to stop. (Side note: I did enjoy the "360 no-scope" reference.
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#4 was, as others have pointed out already, because of the use of retard. I understand that it opens us up to accusations of being PC or too sensitive or whatever else. Yes, I'm aware that words like "moron" and "idiot" have similar etymologies, in that they were used in the medical field first and then flowed into general usage as an insult. "retard," however, is a far more recent occurrence of that crossover, and it does offend people. Just because we, as a society, accepted moron and idiot in the past doesn't mean we have to accept retard now; we accepted a lot of things in the past that are deemed offensive today.
I know you went and found other instances of "retard" on the forum. I'm not surprised. We don't actively go looking for stuff; nobody is sitting in Command Central running searches every 5 minutes looking for keywords like "retard." Most of the time, we see stuff because we simply stumble across it ourselves - reading threads that interest us, etc. For the rest, we do rely on users reporting problems when they see them. But that often leaves a vast number of posts "un-monitored." So if somebody can find a case of "retard" on the forum, I'm not surprised. Much like a cop doesn't catch every speeder on the highway, we can't expect to catch every instance of something that violates the code of conduct; that doesn't mean it's OK to do those things, though. It just means we didn't see it and it wasn't brought to our attention.
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6) 1) Why do people even bother "helping" mjack? You know how he's going to
respond.
7) 2) I actually believe him when he says that his Pile works just fine for
him. If anything, it's a window into the skill level of the people he FFAs
with and an indictment on the FFA format as a whole. I find it hilarious.
And I also want to add your specific comments about these here:
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6) Okay, so? If anything I was trying to quell a flame-fest before it started. My bad.
7) Again, so what? Is it wrong to question a build in the context of "what format are you playing it in and who are you playing against?" I guess so.
So for #6, you've again opted to make it personal about somebody else rather than just discussing the content of the post. There's no attempt to quell a flamefest here; the only thing being attempted here is to belittle mjack.
Honestly, #7 - if taken completely by itself - may not have even warranted a soft warn. This may be analogous to the cop who also gives you a ticket for a busted taillight after he gives you one for speeding - except the cop is doing it to be a douchenozzle, and we're doing it simply to document.
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A few days ago or whenever the whole notion of "the clique" started and I'll freely admit that I laughed it off. Now, as an "outsider looking in", I can see where those comments were coming from. Now, I don't necessarily agree with the clique being born of "everyone ganging up on another". I still stand by my "nah bruh, that's just a bunch of individuals coming to the same conclusion" statement. However, think of this place like a house party for Magic players and you're a new guy anonymously invited (or you invited yourself) and you come in. You'll see large groups of people just talking amongst themselves, maybe some if it Magic related, but mostly just random stuff (AKA: stuff that "probably" should be in a PM). Sure, that group is friendly enough, but it's still kinda awkward to just jump in and start conversing with that group.
On the flipside, at the same party, maybe you see a couple of people holding court about Magic Theory. Those people, I'd imagine, are a little more engaging, and dare I say it, welcoming to a newcomer because the way they communicate on the boards, theoretically, speaks to everyone. Inviting discussion. Answering questions. Arguing when arguments are to be made.
This board has a serious shortage of the latter.
So, first, I agree with your assessment about the cliques. Folks coming to the same conclusion aren't necessarily in collusion with one another. But that's not the main point of this quote, and it's not why I opted to include it - thereby lengthening my already too long post.
I agree that the latter - dudes and dudettes holding court on Magic Theory - is the far better post to have on a magic forum. Maybe it's just answering a poor newb's question about a card, or helping somebody improve their neat deck idea to stick to a specific theme but improve overall game play, or speculation about the new set whenever it's close to coming out, or a humorous look at a game that went horribly wrong, or whatever else. Those are, indeed, the posts that drive a magic forum to be considered "good." And I think this place has an awful lot of them, really.
The other guys just hanging and chatting? They have some interesting conversations, too, honestly. I'm not so sure those conversations are hard to join; they just don't have much to do with magic. But sometimes, talking about the Lego movie or the Super Bowl commercials or whatever else does help to build a sense of community among the regulars. While I'd like to see some of the stuff from the off-topic thread redirected down to the off-topic room, as a general statement we're OK with folks just hanging and chatting.
In either case, though, what's not acceptable is dissing another forum member. Somebody posted a terrible deck idea? Telling them the idea is bad is OK; explaining why is even better. Telling them they're no better than a baby killer because they thought of the bad deck idea, however, is not OK. It's been over-stated by this point, probably, but any reply you make to somebody should be about the content of their post and not about them. That leaves a lot of room for scathing sarcasm, biting commentary, clever ripostes, and so forth. Basically, we treat these two statements differently:
- Your ideas are stupid, because that deck will never be able to generate enough mana to power your best combo.
- You're stupid! That deck doesn't have enough mana to power your best combo.
A is OK. You're taking aim at somebody's ideas. Ideas are made to be criticized and critiqued. That's how they improve. B is not OK, even though you're making almost the exact same point as in A. In statement B, you're taking aim at the poster rather than his idea.
Since my post last night, somebody went and posted "Wheaton's Law" - don't be a dick. That's a pretty fair summary of our code of conduct, really. You can't be a dick toward ideas; you can toward other people.
Hopefully, you've made it down here without falling asleep in your chair. I apologize for the length - I usually run long, but this is worse than usual. If something isn't clear, please let me know and I'll be happy to clear it up. And I'm willing, of course, to continue the general discussion as well.